goodbye my friend

From, More to Me, written by Megg:

“People come and go in your life but they never leave your dreams. Once they are in your subconscious, they are immortal.”

-Patricia Hampl


In the summer of 1991 I was working at a summer camp in Canada. One night in the middle of ‘Training Week’ I was sitting on the railing outside of the Dining Hall when two people came out. One was my friend Jason and the other was a girl named Faye. We hadn’t spoken very much that week, but she asked me if I had a hair elastic. I said I had lots in my cabin so we set off across the field together. From that small, ordinary conversation grew one of the best friendships of my life.

I remember sitting in cabins and talking into the night. I remember talking to her every Wednesday night when we were home from camp. I remember taking long ridiculous road trips to visit her, just so we could see the look on her face when we showed up unexpectedly. I remember that whenever she arrived somewhere, the atmosphere changed. She always filled me with expectation. You never knew what she was going to say or how she was going to say it. I remember how she sat with me at another friend’s funeral and held my hand. I remember how there was never anyone else like her in the world.

There are some people in your life who you think will always be there. There are a group of girls who are friends from that time – Faye, Karen, Cindy, Colleen, Gerb, and me. We don’t talk for months – sometimes years – at a time, but as soon as we get together it’s like we have never been apart. We click. We get each other. We know that no matter what, we are there for each other. Other friends have come and gone, but these girls have always been a constant in my life. I love them. Somehow I thought they would always be there.

A year ago Faye was diagnosed with breast cancer. She fought it and she beat it. Last night I found out that three weeks ago she went back for a check up and it was back. Last night I also found out that she had lost this particular fight. She was 32.


Dear Faye,
Thank you for being my friend. I am braver and sillier and smarter and more honest because I knew you. I will miss you for the rest of my life. I promise not to take that life for granted. I am sorry I didn’t get the chance to say all of this in person. I hope you knew how much you were loved by us all. I hope you know it now. I love you.


(This is a post I wanted to share from a favorite blog – More to Me – by Megg, a Canadian turned Englishwoman-and soon to turn into a wife!  Check out her site by clicking her link on the right.)


9 responses to “goodbye my friend

  1. I better reply to Petrea since she always replies to me:
    Thanks Petrea for cking out her post. You & Megg are 2 of my favs! Life is a series of hello’s & goodbye’s…

  2. Thanks for posting Megg’s beautiful words. I wouldn’t have seen them otherwise.

    Church of the Angels was probably in LA when first built (the post card I posted is very old, turn of the century). At this time, the church is just inside the Pasadena line. Correct me if I’m wrong, anyone.

  3. Kelly, thank you & thanks 4 d photos of your Church of the Angels-the old postcard said in L.A. Isn’t it in Pasadena?

    Miss Havisham, yes life can be very sad & draining at times. But, I’m still thinking about your Goldfish!

    Linda, yes friendship is taken for granted-until it’s gone. Or, we just don’t seem to value each other as before. We are always in a rush, doing something, on the computer, making call after call. Yet, how much of those communications are real connections? how little time we spend for ourselves & for others. The best to your close friend-i can sympathize.

  4. Thanks for your comment about my blog. Your tribute to friendship and this particular friend is lovely. One of my closest friends is fighting the good fight right now.

  5. Kelly, you seem tough on the outside but inside you have a big soft heart. Keep us informed on how Adela is doing.

    Megg, some posts such as this, deserve to be felt beyond the audience who happen onto your site. We all want to & can sympathize with you in this situation. That notion I hope will never be a stranger. I wonder how Faye’s family is taking her loss. Thank you & take care of yourself.

  6. hello – how strange to read my own words here! I’m glad the post touched you, she was one of those people who made a real impact with their life!

  7. Adela’s are great. Thanks for leaving a comment over at the Road Trip site. They picked someone else (Flashes of Hope).